Model 1`s answer: I`m one of those more passive people who don`t really live to have some kind of argument with someone, except in some very rare cases. Today I would like to talk about one of those rare occasions when I had a strong disagreement with a good friend of mine. Anyway, this good friend of mine I`m talking about is an otherwise decent man, but he used to speak negatively about the religious beliefs of other peoples. Of course, I tried to indirectly ask him not to do it many times, but he didn`t really seem to care what I had to say or how I felt about that rather unpleasant aspect of his personality. But the other day, when we had fresh coffee in a café, I couldn`t stay cool because I thought he was doing the same thing in the middle of a number of other people. I politely tried to inform him of how our conversation made other people around us uncomfortable, but as usual, he didn`t really seem to care. And at the time, I told him very loudly that his religious bashing was totally false and unacceptable. Of course, he was trying to argue that he was only trying to draw attention to the incongruities in other people`s religions, but I told him that what he was doing was actually hurting the feelings of others. He was still not convinced that he had made a mistake. Finally, I told him that if he did not give up his habit of bashing religion, I had to end our friendship, and that was when he stopped. Anyway, after the disagreement and the end of our coffee, I asked him very kindly what he would do if someone else would down or question his religious faith. I think he understood my point perfectly and never spoke negatively about other people`s religious beliefs again. 1.
Look for understanding. People tend to be disunited if they don`t get along. When a party is so busy being heard and does not spend time understanding, the disagreement is just around the corner. If you understand that most of us are more alike than the rest of us, you can begin to tolerate and welcome another point of view – even appreciate. First, try to understand and appreciate. This does not mean that you must agree, only that you are open to hearing it. 3. Beware of similarities, not differences. Working with my clients, I discovered that the best way to resolve a disagreement is to look for commonalities. If you focus on the differences, the space becomes wider, but if you look for what you have in common, it helps to close the gap.
The next time you disagree, look for a point of agreement, even if you have to stretch. 6. Make a commitment. In times of violent disagreement, it is not uncommon for one or both parties to have one foot at the door. If you really want to get to the bottom of things, make sure the other person understands your commitment to the relationship. Even if you have a behavioral problem, you need to keep it separate. 7. Use positive language. No one wants to be named, nor be quoted negatively, or hear all the bad things they have done in the past. If you speak in negative languages, you will hurt the person and stop him. if you can bring positivity to what you are trying to say, it is much more likely that you are heard, and that disagreement can be resolved more quickly and easily.
We only had 4 days to submit our mission, and after class we agreed that we would watch this film at Richard`s (another member of the mission team). Oddly enough, Paula did not appear in the evening and her phone was off.